Hello! Welcome to FertileSoul – providing guidance counseling for grown-ups. You are the expert on YOU. But I'm guessing maybe it's been a while since you had a constructive conversation with yourself? After years of putting YOU on the back burner for your job, colleagues, parents, friends, partners, and children, isn't it time to check in with YOU? As your coach, I provide "fertilizer" to help you discover or remember what brings YOU the most fulfillment, helping you heal the parts of you that have been neglected. I am not a therapist. Rather, I meet you where you are and ask, "What's next for you?"
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"We've been wrong about what our job is in medicine. We think our job is to ensure health and survival. But really it is larger than that. It is to enable well-being. And well-being is about the reasons one wishes to be alive. Those reasons matter not just at the end of life, or when debility comes, but all along the way."
~ Atul Gawande, M.D., from Being Mortal
Guidance Counseling for GrownUps
When and who decided that adulthood had to suck?
Why do we put our jobs and roles ahead of people and activities that we claim bring us the deepest sense of joy and meaning?
Why are we here and what is our highest purpose?
Those who know me know how much I love plants and flowers. After making radical changes in my life and career, I realize first-hand how many parallels there are between gardening and personal growth. (Those who know me well also know that I am a huge punster and I could go off right here on lots of gardening/life wordplay . . . I will spare you til later . . . ) I used to feel stuck and trapped, having accomplished all of my goals not feeling satisfied or whole. I had a fixed mindset rather than a growth mindset.
Remember back in high school when you were assigned, or maybe even got to choose, a guidance counselor? Someone to help you explore your options without telling you what to do?
Soooo . . . after graduation, what happened to those people??? As an adult, when life gets REAL, who do you turn to? Do you have it all figured out now that you're over 21? Are you done growing because you made your life choices when you were younger?
Who gives you guidance? Maybe you lean on friends, partners, coworkers, or family members? But, they are adults, too! With their own busy lives and competing agendas.
Are you feeling stuck? In your job? In your relationships? In the outcome of decisions you made long ago that are no longer satisfying?
Are you feeling isolated? Even when around others? Have you "lost your identity" taking care of everyone else?
Is your health taking a toll because you've been neglecting yourself?
Have you reached all of your "goals" but aren't feeling fulfilled?
You. Are. Not. Alone.
As a grown-up, it's tempting just to try harder, decide you are crazy or designate yourself as "compost" for future generations. I'd like to suggest another option . . . maybe dig a little deeper and . . .